Choosing to believe

She was referring to the latest topic of conversation making its way through a few of the third grade lunch tables.

Sex? Drugs? Thankfully it wasn't quite that extreme, but it didn't keep my heart from sinking as she shook her head and whispered: "Santa Claus isn't real." Surely my face reflected the saddened state of my heart. "I'm not ready for this." I told my friend as she filled me in, warning me to begin preparing for what could be one of those conversations that would chip away at the childhood innocence I try so hard to protect in my children. For our family, Christmas is ultimately a Christian holiday. So while Santa has never been our main focus, I am a mama who enjoys incorporating the magic of flying reindeer, shelved elves and Santa Claus into the memories I'm crafting for my kids.

The power of Makebelieve Whether or not you're a fan of the Man in Red, chances are good you promote some form of imaginary play in your home.

Developmentally young children benefit from engaging in make-believe. From playing dressup to reading fairytales, pretend play promotes language skills, complex thought and emotional development as it engages the creative centers in a child's brain

.In a similar respect, animated cartoons, costumed characters and childhood legends can all foster the growth of little imaginations.

Redefining Santa claus Children, however, soon begin to separate fact from fiction. During the elementary school years the ability to reason expands, making this a prime stage to question the existence of, well, you-know-who.

My friend's words have since echoed in my mind as I've reflected on what to say when it's time to help my children redefine Santa Claus.Much like "The Truth About Santa" letter by author Martha Brockenbrough that's gone viral, I've penned a heartfelt response intended to move my children toward a spirit of giving while preserving the wonder of Old Saint Nick.

Dearest Ones, Is Santa real, you ask? No, sweetie, there is no one real Santa Claus, but the idea of Santa rests within each of us. And while Mommy and Daddy may be the ones who place your presents under the tree, we are each charged with sharing the joy and hope of Christmastime with others.

I bet you didn't realize it, but you've been playing Santa Claus all along too. It's true. Just like the original Saint Nicholas, we've been serving as Santa to children in need. Each year when you help me pack shoeboxes for Operation Christmas Child, fill stockings for the Salvation Army, or shop for an Angel Tree family, you have been practicing to be someone's Santa Claus.

Every year that Santa Claus has surprised you on Christmas morning, you've experienced firsthand how it feels to receive unexpected blessings. Now it's your turn to knowingly – and secretly – bless others. I still believe. I believe in the generosity, the service, and the love that abounds during the holiday season. I hope you will choose to believe too. Love, Mom